Let’s explore this concept, shall we.
To start with a little basic background, from the time you are old enough to explore sexual desire you are told one of two things. If you’re a boy you are told sex is good and that it is your nature to explore your sexual desires. If you’re a girl you are told sex is the luxury of a man and that your purpose is to please him. Obviously not is so many words, but the message is ever so clear in the slut shaming we put on our girls. In today’s society, we are moving further and further away from traditional ideals and women are shaking up the dynamic of sexual pleasures. Men are either falling in line and jumping out the way or they are digging their roots deeper in misogyny.
At any rate, exploring your sexual desire is being taken to a higher level. More than physical it is becoming more rooted in the mind. “You cannot turn me on if you do not stimulate my intellect.” Not to confuse this with the invented term of “sapiosexual”, which means one who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature. I’m referring to the act of stimulating me with your conversation before you explore the depths of my body.
Small Disclaimer – While this is not the case across the board, and you find it ever so present with the “stay woke” community I’m certainly hoping this doesn’t come across as judgment on anyone. That is never my intention or even how I operate. Get it in however you like as long as you aren’t harming yourself or anyone around you. I’m speaking on my development and some commonalities I’ve come across in conversations with different people.
To put it bluntly and somewhat less than tactful, my pussy doesn’t get wet for just anyone, I have to be stimulated by the conversation you keep with me. I don’t mean the lame game running type of conversation. I mean get me worked up in a debate about political issues or telling me about an article you read recently that I might find interesting. Let me find out you as militant and pro-black as me lol. But in all seriousness, we aren’t horny college students and casual hook-ups don’t cut it anymore. I have a desire of sexual pleasure that needs to be filled, and as I get older the same things that used to get me ready to go don’t work. Deeper connections and higher levels of consciousness need to be reached to get me off. So as I navigate the single life and building my empire, casual sex is not a priority and relationships can turn to situationships in a heartbeat. Conscious pleasure gets me going and keeps me balanced.
You don’t have to like it, baby I love it!